A few months back when my friend wasn’t married and packed off to Bombay, I made a pact with her that we keep challenging each other with whatever the other is uncomfortable doing. Like eating at a restaurant alone, getting closure with a friend and going out of my way if I normally don’t believe in it. I didn’t know why I suggested this back then and only now I realised I have FOBC-“Fear of Being Complacent.”
FOBC is me running away from compliments, in the hope that it doesn’t get to my head. I don’t become too pleased with myself.
My coach just waits for me to accept I’m good enough, but I keep denying my form or acting like a 560kg leg press is like ‘no big deal’. My subconscious- “Don’t show your excitement or you’ll become complacent.”
Being wired like that doesn’t make me a control freak, it is in fact the best attitude to have to grow and learn.
Imagine ordering a coffee at a fancy eatery and getting a Milo. How does that feel? Every time you snooze the alarm, every time you say you will workout and skip, when you don’t finish the work before heading home, if you give a time and don’t reach, you are being a Milo. Not for anyone else but yourself.
I don’t want Milo, I don’t expect Milo from myself. I raise the bar every time. If I am the filter coffee, then maybe I become a cappuccino, then I aim for Mocha Latte, higher Expresso and may be the French press one day. But never going back to Milo.
We may not be French Press in all aspects of our lives today. We can work on each one of them and through the process of failing, learning and getting better rise from being Milo.
Sometimes I over think and feel I’m not doing enough, but as long as there is progression and we’re aiming for the next level it’s not a complacent attitude. Which makes me realise I can celebrate my wins too without becoming complacent. (That’s my next challenge.)
If you have that attitude you could be hard on other people sometimes. Expect them to be more than Milo, but they need the same space and time to progress as you would. If you’re too okay with their complacency, as a team you may slack, and if you’re too hard on them they may just become demotivated. The key is to balance it out.
It’s all about the attitude. So let’s be more resilient in our endeavours and less complacent. This attitude will help you reach any goal, be it losing weight. Correction. Be it getting FIT, having enough water, making it on time, whatever you are aiming at. So get on with the day now, go get your French Press.
PS: I’ve never had Milo so no offence Milo I just took it as a reference with coffee. It’s not aiming at putting down the drink or anything. For some Milo could be where they want to reach from Ceralac/Nanpro.